The Transgender Teen's Survival Guide
Everyone's seen the books like "The LGBT Teen's Survival Guide", but as a transgender teen, I know for a fact that I have almost never seen one explicitly focused on transgender teens. So here we are. Feel free to ask anything, or submit. We're here for you. <3
I’m reposting this because I had one made for me and if you don’t have the money for a harness, these work. Remember to do the measurements correctly and wear with boxer briefs or briefs.
Ok so per request- here are instructions on how to make the superhero packer strap. good luck and have fun crafting! results may vary- I do not recommend any extreme physical activity or sorts.
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How should I come out to my family, so they won't overreact. I mean they will most likely be accepting. what I am scared of is their initial reaction. by the way, I am MTF.
Make sure you do it in an easier way. Maybe write a letter. Consider having resources for them or people they can talk to. And most importantly have a plan in case it doesn’t go well. Make sure you have time to get out of the house and let them think it through if need be.
I'm out to my parents as non-binary but not to my little brother. My parents recently agreed to (try to) call me by my chosen name, which is gender neutral - so no problems with it not being my assigned gender. However, they said that they would have to tell people why they were calling me by my chosen name, and the reason couldn't be "my child is transgender". What reasons can I give for my new "nickname"?
Hm. You could make up a story for why they should call you that, you could say that a teacher or friend gave you the nick name… If anyone has suggestions, please reply or send in an ask!
What does it mean when I want to dress like a girl and a boy? Like I would love to have boy cut hair and dress like a boy but I love dressing like a girl sometimes too.
It could mean that you are genderqueer, that you are a female who experiments with gender presentation, that you are bigender, or anything else. No one can truly find that out but you.
TranSquat
Friends, and friends of iPhone. Hi, my name is Billy. I wrote an iPhone app called TranSquat. In a nutshell, it is a gender neutral bathroom finder that locates bathrooms that are gender free relative to your current location. You can search, add and share safe locations. It was written by and for the trans community. It is powered by data from safe2pee. You can help build the app by downloading and adding locations in your own communities.
On a personal note, I wanted to write an app for the trans community…. It is also my fundraising goal to get 3000 downloads to help finance my top surgery with Dr. Charles Garramone…hopefully later this year. Please help support the trans community and help me reach this goal by downloading this app. As of now, I only need 2984 more to go!!! If you could share this with others whom might find this app useful and would like to support this project that would be much appreciated too!!! Thanks for reading. Download link follows.
http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/transquat/id521546602?ls=1&mt=8
Top 10 Ways to Overcome Dysphoria
1. Listen to Music - create a playlist that you know will help you feel better. Whether it’s music that distracts you, empowers you, or that you can sympathize with it, just stop and listen for a while.
2. Watch Something - funny, distracting, a mystery; whatever will hold your focus and take you away for long enough for you to try and gain your footing again
3. Eat Something - make yourself a treat. Or buy something delicious. No matter how odd or sugary or anything, so long as it doesn’t pose you immediate danger, savor it.
4. Take it Out - take a pillow, leash, belt or something similar in both hands and attack something sturdy. It could be your bed or a table or a tree, but yell whatever you’re feeling and beat the daylights out of that inanimate object until you’re too tired to continue.
5. Activate! - do research, write a post, make a video; do something to contribute to getting to where you want to be and/or helping the community.
6. Art - create something unique and powerful. It could relate to your dysphoria or not – just design something and focus on creating it until it’s done. The good thing about art is that you can never run out of ideas, and it never has to get old.
7. Read - whether queer graphic novels, classic literature, or trans* fanfiction is your pleasure, find something and start reading, and don’t worry about how long you stay absorbed in it
8. Write a Letter - or a journal entry about how you feel. Perhaps write it to your future self, or to that person or part of society that manages to trigger you every time. Keep it, burn it, or stick it on your wall.
9. Write on Your Body - whether you want to draw a moustache on your face in eyeliner or put on full makeup, or write quotes, lyrics, symbols, images, or phrases on your body, do so. You can take the makeup off whenever you want, and you can write on a part of your body no one else will be seeing. Or you can leave it on/write on your face or arms or hands for the world to see. If possible, it might help to write on a particular body part that is making you feel dysphoric. Then, when you look at it, you can remember that you’re in control of your body, and see whatever reminder you left for yourself.
10. Change it Up - get a piercing, cut and/or die your hair, choose to shave as little or as much as you’d like, get a tattoo, wear something new and different, put on dramatic makeup. Do something to your body that you can control, that does show who you are (or who you want to be or someone else entirely) on the outside.
Disclaimer: Not all of these will work for everyone! Some will work wonders, some will work a little, some will do nothing, and some may actually make it worse. As always when coping with this sort of thing, know your triggers, and make choices based around those. Other than that, do whatever it takes to keep yourself relatively safe and make yourself feel better.
note: If you have other ideas/suggestions, feel free to send them to me! (I’m trying to keep a running list on this permalink that people can easily access.) Also, I didn’t include talking because a. not everyone has that resource b. it’s the only regular suggestion I’ve seen online for dealing with dysphoria.
Also, I dislike using the word dysphoria because it is so…inadequate to cover all that it does. But it’s the best-known word, so I’ve chosen to use it here.
More ideas, whether for you or your boyfriend or girlfriend. There are several here that I know we have not posted when the question has come up before. Do be sure to read the disclaimer and have a discussion with your boyfriend about things he’d like to try/thing he has done before and try to be aware of some of his triggers before you suggest doing anything in particular. Communication is key.
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We are more.
We are more than our bodies.
Trans* people are more than the horror stories.
We are more than faceless victims.
We are people.
We breathe.
We love.
We cry.
We feel.
We exist.
But,
We are still the horror stories.
There are too many trans* of color lives lost.
This is not okay.
Don’t ignore the fact that we are more
than the horror stories,
but do what you can
to prevent these stories
from happening.
Just know,
Every faceless victim
loved, helped, breathed, was
a family member, a child, a lover.
We are trans*,
and we are real.
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Followers! Do any of you have interest in having a Q&A/advice/chat tonight? I don’t have a cam, but it could be fun and anonymous. Let me know!
